Being Used

     Being used: has been a constant in my life.

     Whether it had been school or college, undergraduation or post-graduation, I have always been used by my fellow students and seniors, as well as by juniors too.

     I am in PG, currently. And there is this passed out, 2 to 3 years senior, who asked me for help for her improvement examination, which I did. I helped her with everything she needed, question papers and I even gave her my two notebooks of notes, which she had said she would return the day after her exam.

     But on the day of returning, she calls me and says that she needs my notes for some more work and she will return later. And now, it has been 2 months, and I still don't have my notes back. 

     Understand the scenario here. When she had come to take the notes, I even made sure to make her comfortable and meet where she wants to, even though it was a bit difficult for me to reach there.

     And now, to return my notes to me, she wants me to do her another favor and take her notes from our teacher, even though she will visit the college for her certificates, but I don't have to go to college as my classes are currently off.

     I don't understand such people. They always use people and then throw them away, and the go on and cry that other people misuse them. She herself has so often complained to me about her own classmates who were very "selfish", in her words. Then why is she acting selfish herself now?

     I just hope to finally meet people someday, who actually bring just love to the table, and no hidden ulterior motives. I want to one day go to a place where there is just love, support, respect and community spirit all around.

The Maroon Umbrella : A Cry to a Father from His Younger Daughter

It was a maroon umbrella;

that was nowhere to be found.

And my father claimed it was taken by me and lost.

Truth?

I, never, even for once, had used the umbrella.

But father claimed it was me. That I lost it. My mother, who loves blaming me for her problems, absent mindedly said that I have never used the umbrella;

But,

My father was adamant, that I caused this mishap. After a short argument between my parents, even my mother was shocked by my father's determination to convict me.

And,

I was in the neighboring room, being able to hear everything.

And can you guess what I did after that?

     Went about my day like nothing had ever happened.

Just another Tuesday!

Well, don't worry! It wasn't the first time my father hit the table claiming I did something I had no idea about and definitely, not the first time my pretending like I heard nothing.

     Don't we all do that? I mean my friends do that all the time. I share my problems to them and they say that I have no real problem at all, like they didn't hear what I just said.

Counting My Blessings : Part 1

They say it helps, so, here I am trying.

     They say, "Count your blessings to feel better. Show gratitude.". So, I am starting this new blog series, "Counting My blessings", where I'll write 10 things I am grateful for in each blog, hopefully, not repeating any. This is the first one and here I go.

1. I am grateful for my life.

2. I am grateful that I am 24 years old and still alive and breathing.

3. I am healthy.

4. I am happy that I have a full functional body.

5. I am grateful that I have eyes to see the world.

6. I am grateful to have ears that help me listen to music, that I love so much.

7. I am grateful that I have strong teeth that help me eat anything I want.

8. I am grateful for me legs that help me go anywhere I want to and can.

9. I am grateful for my hands that allows me to hold this phone.

10. I am grateful for my fingers that are typing into this blog, everything I am thinking.

     I know I kept it a bit general and easy. It's the first blog and I wanted to keep it light Moreover, we are often so busy by the other, more complicated life problems, that we forget about the smaller things. But I happen to be a Mathematics student and Math says that life is all about balance. So, I keep this series balanced as long as I can and hope to delve into deeper blessings slowly too. 

     See you again in my next blog. Till then, take care, my sunflowers!🌻

P. S., I write blogs because I am a very lonely person. If you are reading this blog, either write a comment or send me an email. I shall reply as soon as possible.

Flashbacks

     Do you have that thing where you suddenly remember something sad or embarrassing and have a sudden rush of fear in your body?

     Yes, I do. I get these flashbacks, at least a solid seven to eight times a day. They usually last for a second or two. But the memory it calls back, spoils my mood for the next couple of hours.

     Like I remember the time when I got a few answers in my standard 6 English test, that were correct according to the book, and my teacher scolded me for bringing the matter to her. P.S., I was polite when I showed her the book.

     I was late on submitting my assignment in standard 9 due to my depression. And I was given the "You are the worst student ever" look by my teacher and her eyes still haunt me. When I was telling my teacher that I was late because of some genuine reasons, this other girl who was with me, told me not to do that in a rather looking down upon tone and her words and tone still haunt me.

     Like the time when I knew the answer to a question but my tutur at 11th standard coaching, shunned me down and didn't let me speak. Like when he made fun of me, saying that I am inconsistent, when I stood first in the second test after coming 6th in the first test.

     Like every time I remember anything about CMI. Even when I remember my time with my roommate, Sadhvika, I have the sudden rush of fear and same, even though I really appreciate her. I hate anything and everything related to Narendran. I was really trying to remain at CMI and I would have but the few people who made things worse for me include Narendran and Ritirupa(senior). The paragraph about CMI would be a long one, so, moving on.

     I recently read somewhere that such flashbacks are a result of PTSD, both types. What's worse in cases like mine is that we are unable to heal as we are stuck forever in the environment, causing us this trauma, every single day.

     

     

Unsafe at the Safest Place

     So, my parents are looking for a groom for my sister nowadays, yes, for her arranged marriage. So, firstly, my mother would only bring names that were 15 to 20 years older than my sister. She was even told about men who are characterless, roadside thugs, high school failed, not earning and she had no problems to these, in comparison to my architect sister, from one of the beat architecture schools in India, working in the best firm in our hometown.

     Then finally, we got a guy who was still less qualified than my sister, but better than the other candidates. Then our family got to meet the guy's parents ad anyone, literally anyone with half a mind could see that the boy's mother would be abusive to my sister. They basically want a housewife for their son, who is ready to work like a donkey in the house after marriage. The boy's father is also of the same opinion and the boy would do anything his parents asked. 

     Moreover, when I went in front of them, they were more excited to see me than my sister. The mother who treated my sister like she was fly over shit, became the sweetest person to me. I told all these to my parents and they started treating me like I am outsider here to break this wedding. That I am the daughter of the devil. That I am worse than Hitler or Mussolini. 

     And, in case, you are thinking I am exaggerating, say thanks to God that you don't have a family like mine.

     Also, my mother said that if they want to have me in place of my sister, they can have me as long as they are ready to pay for me. 

     Ha!

     Do you know that my mother always claims to be modern and open minded but didn't even tell the guy's name to my sister, saying, "What will you do with his name?".

     You ask about our father? Well, he agrees to everything my mother says, adding, "She works day and night for you, can't you do even this much for her?", where this much can mean anything from us too working in the kitchen day and night to getting married to a 50 year old rapist.

     And all this reminds me of the times when my classmates would get jealous of me because I used to be good in studies. Yes, "used to be" because you can't remain even same after what I am going through on a daily basis.

     So, a couple of my friends have asked me why I share about myself so much, well, because the last time I did, I was told, "No! You must be misunderstanding something."

     Yes, I am misunderstanding the family I spent all my life with.